Food for Thought: Avoiding Misunderstandings
By Celia Lambert, PhD
Have you ever noticed in relationship with a friend, coworker or even family member that there are misunderstandings?
This is because most people see the world through their eyes only. They identify closely with their own feelings and experiences – so much so that they believe this to be the only reality.
There are times when it could be to your advantage to become the observer. To pull back from a situation to gain perspective and understanding from a more neutral point.
Consider what you may need to know about a situation or person in order to be more benevolent. Understand, what’s right in your mind may not apply in every situation. Sometimes it’s just better to be kind.
I’m not suggesting you allow someone to walk all over you. What I’m suggesting is neutral observation from a distance. Take your emotions out of it. Back up, look through your wide angel lenses and gain some perspective.
Is it really important to the relationship that he/she puts the toothpaste cap on or that your co-worker offers you a cup of coffee when he/she gets one for themselves. It might be considerate however were we not all raised the same. What’s important to you may be oblivious to another.
When you decide you care more about the person or the relationship than being right (in your mind) you can grow as a person.
Connect to your goal. Is it a relationship you want or is it to be right. One is considerate and open hearted, the other is self-serving and isolating. Being okay with differences is loving, having to be right is not. It’s based in fear.
Celia Lambert, PhD is an Author, Speaker and Personal Growth Coach. Celia works with clients to improve many aspects of their lives specializing in eating disorders, anxiety, depression and relationship challenges.
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