Food for Thought: Discover Who You Really Are
By Celia Lambert, PhD
Who doesn’t want to be a better version of themselves? After all isn’t that what New Year resolutions are about? If you find yourself making the same promises year after year, I invite you to think outside of the box by going inward toward your true self.
To discover who you really are we can begin with a simple exercise. You’ll need a piece of paper and a pen. Create two columns. Label them “joy” and “not so much joy”
Now, ask yourself, “What brings me joy?” Hint: What makes you get out of bed when you are still tired? Is it the kids, a bike ride or a hike? Is it helping a neighbor or a home improvement project of your own? Whatever the task, when you are done, do you feel good, did it bring you joy? If so, embrace it, it is a part of you and as such goes in the first column appropriately labeled, “Joy”
Let’s add to that in this way. Do you love your dog or any other pet? Most people would say, yes, that they love their animals then that goes in the joy column. Do you like to craft, paint or cook? Do you feel fulfillment at work or from volunteering? Do you like to learn? All of these things would go in the joy column. When you identify what you really love, this helps you to discover who you truly are!
A foundation of truth becomes a solid strength that you can call upon when making decisions. Knowing who you truly are can help you choose a career, a partner or a path in life. The flip side to this is what do you do that doesn’t bring you joy, that might bring you sadness or disappointment? Chances are it’s a bad habit or attitude you have developed.
Most negative behaviors began as a response to a threat, perceived or real and can be held like a grudge in your subconscious. They are coping skills so, when you are triggered in a similar way, you respond as if that original threat is still occurring today.
For example, you may find yourself arguing with a coworker or a family member, or judging yourself or others. None of these behaviors really make you feel good, even if you feel justified in the moment. As such, this goes in the “not so much joy” column. With some exploration into the subconscious and release work this no longer needs to be a part of your experience. Perhaps you’ll even find joy in the journey that has made you, uniquely you!
Celia Lambert, PhD, author, speaker and personal growth coach, works with people who are struggling with eating disorders, anxiety, depression, relationship challenges and PTSD. Helping them create healing, health and happiness in their lives.
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