Happy Father’s Day! How the ancients viewed the ideal father
Umberto Eco in Foucault’s Pendulum: “I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.” While there are a plethora of poems extolling the virtues of motherhood, there is a seeming dearth of affirmations of fatherhood.
With Father’s Day approaching when we laud fatherhood, paternal bonds, fathers, and their influence on society, what might we say? Different cultures have described the ideal man, and by extension, what constitutes an ideal father. What ideals and virtues are men, and by extension those who become fathers or father figures, to emulate and embody? Here is what the ancients had to say about fathers.
Plato’s ideal is the philosopher-king whose reason guides their spirit and curbs their desires for the benefit of society. As public servants they embody wisdom, justice, courage, and moderation. Upon these four virtues individuals and societies can build a good life.
Aristotle’s ideal is being magnanimous, refusing to be petty, willing to face danger, and acting for noble purposes. Excellence, honor, and pride in helping oneself and others flourish are key. Virtues can be taught and practiced to better ourselves and our community.
Confucius’ ideal is a junzi, a gentleman or noble man who respects elders and teachers and whose conduct uplifts others and inspires them to be good and virtuous. Self-improvement is ongoing and humility is practiced as excessive pride disrupts social harmony.
- What have you learned in odd moments from fathers and father figures?
- What values have they taught you?
- How have wisdom, justice, courage, and moderation formed your life?
- What noble purpose calls you to excellence and ongoing self-improvement?
- How do pride and humility shape you?
- What values are you teaching others?
- How are you bettering this community and world?
Rev. Dr. Sybrant serves at Murray Hills Christian Church (Disciples of Christ). For more info, visit us at 15050 SW Weir Road, Beaverton. 503-524-5230 www.murrayhills.org
