I became blind at age 59 and it was a big learning curve

I became blind at age 59 and I had never met a blind person before that. It was a big learning curve for me and my family. We had to learn how to live all over again. Here are some tips for interacting with blind people that I’ve learned through my experience.

When you introduce yourself to a blind person, say your name as soon as possible. If you see a blind person that you already know, make sure to say your name too: don’t expect us to remember your voice. Blind people enjoy communication: we want to know who you are, and we want to know about you.

We know we are blind, and that you are not. Don’t worry too much about using words such as “see” or “look” around us. For example, don’t worry about saying “it’s good to see you” or “you are looking good” to us. We appreciate the kindness just as anyone else would. On the other hand, if you say, “look at this” or “check this out,” don’t be surprised if we look at you with a blank stare. Instead, you could say, “there’s an object on your right” or “there’s a curb coming up ahead of you in about three steps.” Blind people rely heavily on proper use of directions.

Many blind people almost always appreciate the offer of assistance, but don’t assume that we need it. If you offer, we will let you know. Never grab the arm of a blind person unless you have asked them if you may: it might startle them or cause a fall. You might say, “would you like some assistance?” and then, “may I take your arm?” You might also ask, “which arm do you prefer?” Blind people have different preferences. For example, I prefer to be guided by my left arm, because I’m usually holding my cane in my right hand.

We put a lot of trust in people who are driving, so please follow the rules. Look at crosswalks! If you are on the sidewalk with us, don’t hesitate to say, “passing on your left!” or “stroller on your right!”

If you or your children are curious, please do ask us what the white cane is for. I appreciate letting people know what I see and what I don’t see. I often let children try the white cane so they can figure out how to walk with it. It helps them understand me and people like me.

Curiosity helps us learn about each other’s differences.

By Rebecca Piros, Beaverton Committee on Aging member. Learn more about the Beaverton Committee on Aging at www.BeavertonLibrary.org/BCOA.