When one is ready and a partner is not, how do you navigate the discrepancy

When one is ready and a partner is not, how do you navigate the discrepancy

Contemplating a move later in life, either due to health or manageability needs, is a significant matter. There are times when one partner is ready to make the change and the other is not. With such an important decision, how do you address the discrepancy?

Start in a good place by taking several slow, deep breaths. It helps to release frustration and negative energy that builds over time.

Remembering to show respect for each other is essential to reaching a positive outcome. Over time, the issues loom and we forget to be kind.

An effective step I highly recommend is having each other write down what they would like to see occur, and why. It will help both parties to have clarity, which then makes discussing the downsizing and move more focused.

An example would be, “I would like us to reduce our possessions to a manageable amount and move into independent living. This would make me feel more stable and supported if one of us needs to move into assisted living or needs help with daily living activities at a later date.”

Also, asking one another their biggest fear or concern in relation to downsizing and the move, and then LISTEN. It is so helpful. We often feel that we need to talk the other into agreement, however, asking valuable questions and listening is much more beneficial.

Additionally, coaching may be needed so that a third party can offer an unbiased opinion and be a bridge to both parties feeling heard and supported.


If you are in need of this type of service, feel free to reach out for a 30-minute free call to learn more. Kimberly Shute, Downsizing Coach, 971-227-1302. Generations in a home is a treasure, downsizing is a gift! Please feel free to contact Mature Moves Made Easy or the Mature Moves Real Estate Team at 971-227-1302 or email Kimberly@mmret.com.